E: Do you think that you are in a more confident space now compared to where you were a couple years ago?
S: Absolutely! The experiences that I’ve had and the people that I’ve met over the past few years have helped me redefine my perception of confidence. The insight and wisdom I’ve gained as I entered my 20s – early adulthood – taught me a significant amount about myself and the way the world works. Most importantly, I would say I’ve reached a point where I am comfortable and appreciative of myself as I am of others, and I believe that is a major milestone within this eternal journey of building self-love and confidence.
E: In what ways has becoming a confident person helped you in your personal life? (i.e. forming relationships, profession, interests, etc.)
S: After working on my confidence, I was more prone to taking up opportunities that I otherwise would have never sought. Be it dance performance opportunities, career-oriented opportunities, or relation-forming opportunities, there were many during my early adolescent years which I never even attempted because of my lack of confidence inhibiting me from taking a step forward. After working on my confidence, that changed as I am more intimidated by the thought of missing out on a potential opportunity through which I either succeed or learn a valuable lesson from, so I keep an open mindset as new things come my way.
E: When you form new relationships now, do you also seek to find confident people? Do you ever feel intimidated by other confident people?
S: I like to have a wide spectrum of mindsets in the relationships that I form now. I have a fair share of relations with people that are more experienced, confident, and wise in life than myself, as well as friends who I could perhaps pass on some wisdom too. It’s a nice way of constantly learning and growing, while simultaneously being able to reinforce what I learned as I pass it on. Everyone is a victim of invalidation to some extent at one point or another in their respective lives so it’s important to remember that as we meet confident people and take inspiration from them.
E: Do you feel like there’s a connection gap between your parents and you because of the age gap and also the way they were raised?
S: For sure, and I think it’s inevitable and completely normal. I think there is a generation and cultural gap that we can’t ignore between myself, being born and brought up in America, and my parents, who were raised in India. The cultural dynamic is significantly different so there is an understanding gap, especially with my needs as I enter my 20s. But we all try our best to bridge the gap and work on being accepting of each other’s learnings and that’s the best part.